Fathers Battling Injustice

Some clarity and consensus emerging?

Posted By: Gordon Bolton
Date: Sunday, 26 March 2000, at 11:16 a.m.

I would like to thank the many posters who have contributed bits, pieces and great chunks to the understanding of how a great systemic injustice has been allowed to be created in our Canadian Justice System.

The challenge for us is to see if we can draw the discordant pieces together into a cogent and coherent critique and put forward a new format which will garner wide support from the public and cause politicians and judges to implement the new format in form, structure and execution.

As a preface let me say that we did not come from a perfect system and fall into a greatly perverted system. The system was flawed and critique was needed long ago. The academic feminist critique was needed. It seems however that the academic feminist critique has been hi jacked by a polemic, strident, and essentially mercenary organization who have mislead and distorted facts and statistics and virtually stampeded legislators and judges to perverted excess against individual men and their children in attempts to appease strident men hating lesbians cloaked in the robes of motherhood.

The discontented men hating lesbians have created an environment hostile towards men, family, children, truth, fairness, honesty and so on to the extent that an angry, dishonest and unbalanced woman can intimidate and destroy her husband, her children and community and all other parties are defenceless against her.

An atmosphere has been created where huge damage can be done to a good and innocent person without benefit of provisions for defence and due process or redress. Men in family relationships who love and care for their children are at the mercy of the whims of their wives and can at any moment have their lives totally destroyed.

Woman are no different than men in that they can become corrupt or just plain discontent, angry and unreasonable for no apparent reason. Divorce rates are soaring and the number one reason is self declaration on the part of the woman that she is bored and discontented.

One visit to a lawyer to "explore her options" reveals that with one false affidavit she can achieve total control of the house, the children and almost the entire family income. Interim orders for custody of the children and a restraining order against the husband are free for the asking in Family Court. The woman's obligations to the husband are immediately ended but he takes on the status of an indentured slave to "her family" which may already include a new lover.

In such a situation it is now in her interest to cut off all access and attempts at joint custody as this would diminish the cash flow from the father. He can always be called upon for babysitting service when it is convenient for her.

If she does not have a new mate already she can check out the market for one who has income and no maintainance orders and if successful she has the best of all possible worlds. Ex-husband pays for the children and their expenses. She continues to enjoy the company of the children and the new man will provide for whatever entertainment she desires which is not provided by torture of the ex-husband.

Of course it is never that simple and there will be plenty of dust, smoke and confusion thrown up in the process. There will probably be partial and full mental breakdowns, plenty of booze and even some protestations of remorse in the form of blaming the ex-husband for her feelings of guilt and wickedness over her own behavior.

A psychologist would tell you that that is transference. In family breakdown this mental disorder manifests itself in false affidavits intended to cause harm to the other party in Court and the community and a corollary Parental Alienation Syndrome perpetrated upon the children.

In most cases involving adults we presume that they know right from wrong and we are generally right about that. However, knowing right from wrong does not prevent people from doing wrong. And in the event of family breakdown the risks/rewards for the woman seem to be tilted in favour of doing wrong and then more wrong.

The father in addition takes on the status of the proverbial rat trapped in the cage with electric shocks for standing still and additional shocks for movement in any direction. The cruelty is exacerbate d as for almost all men the most important thing in the world is their reputation and their children.

One would normally expect any man to respond immediately to an attack upon their reputation or their children. In conflict with their (ex)wife a man is currently powerless to defend their reputation or their children. Any attempts to defend either will result in increasing electric shocks from the manipulators of the system.

The man hating lesbians have been successful in perpetrating a virtual campaign of hate and prejudice upon all men that is paralleled only by much condemned campaigns against ethnic, racial or religious groups. In many cases a man is presumed guilty of something or other the moment that he is summoned to appear in any court by a woman. God help the Judge who does not go with the program.

And it is the program which must be exposed for what it is and altered. The program currently is as follows;

In the past society has had some gender specific roles.

(Some) Women feel that they have been at a disadvantage because of the "traditional" roles.

(Some) Women feel that because of perceived systemic injustice in the past, that in the present any dispute between man and woman should be pre-emptorially settled in favour of the specific woman.

All other considerations are irrelevant and inconsequential in the "war between men and women" which exists only in their own minds.

The program should be replaced as follows;

Men and women are equal in most regards until demonstrated different in specific cases.

Men and women should be treated equally in society and in the courts.

In the event of marital breakdown there should be a presumption of joint custody of children, parties shall maintain their respective incomes and specific expenses for the children shall be attributed upon the ability to pay. Each parent shall be entitled to equal time with the children and the children shall be entitled to equal time with each parent.

Each parent shall provide for the children while they are in their care. School expenses, dental work, and agreed upon extra lessons etc. shall be split pro-rata 50/50, 60/40 or otherwise as the case may be.

Parties who engage in false allegations and PAS shall be immediately and increasingly limited in access to the children.

False allegations and PAS shall be acted upon immediately by the Court. Parties and their counsel shall be liable for redress and immediate sanction from the court for incidences of false allegations and PAS.

A petition for divorce from a marriage including minor children shall not be permitted until completion of both mandatory marriage counselling and post separation shared custody parenting classes---unless their are clear and extreme circumstances.

Third parties poking their noses into families including minor children shall be subject to significant court damages and ongoing damages to harmed parties and their children.